How to Feel Like You’ve Got Your Life Together (Even When You Don’t)
Let’s face it — adulthood is just a series of moments where you pretend to have it all figured out while low-key spiraling. But who says we can’t look put together while winging it? Here are five totally doable ways to give off “I’ve got this” vibes… even if you don’t.
1. Wear Sunglasses Everywhere 🕶️
Sunglasses aren’t just for summer or sunny days — they’re for life. Dark circles from binge-watching shows until 2 a.m. after fighting with toddlers to get to sleep? Hidden. Smudged eyeliner because you rubbed your eyes too hard? Disguised. Plus, sunglasses make you look mysterious, like you have places to be and important things to do, even if that place is Target! Another positive…they hide all those RBF faces you just can’t seem to hide:)
2. Make a To-Do List (and Put Easy Stuff on It) ✅
Nothing feels more productive than crossing things off a list. The trick? Add easy tasks like:
“Drink coffee” ☕
“Put on pants” 🩳
“Breathe in and out” 😮💨
You’re accomplishing something, and that’s what counts. The shear endorphin release of checking off an item is legit! I often do something that’s not on my list and I take a minute to add it and check it off to make me feel better, lol.
3. Keep One Corner of Your House Clean 🧼
The entire house doesn’t need to be spotless. Pick a corner — maybe the entryway or one side of the living room — and keep it visitor-ready. If anyone pops by, just stand in that area and block the view of the chaos behind you. “Oh, the rest of the place? Just redecorating!” Confession: I have an extra room that we have intended to make into a bar but instead, it has everything I don’t have a place for. Christmas decorations, cords that I have no idea what they are for, but keep ‘just in case”…you get the point. It’s full of crap but no one sees it!
4. Have a Signature Drink 🍹
It can be a fancy coffee, a sparkling water, or a cocktail. Just having a go-to drink makes you look like you have refined taste and a plan. Bonus points if you casually mention it:
“I’ll just have my usual — a lavender oat milk latte.”
They don’t need to know you usually make instant coffee.
5. Master the “I’m Busy” Look 📅
Hold a planner (even if it’s empty), walk briskly, and throw in phrases like:
“Let me check my schedule.”
“This week is crazy.”
Even if your week’s main event is deciding whether to fold laundry or just live out of the basket.
Remember: No One Has It Figured Out 💖
Behind every “together” person is a pile of laundry, forgotten emails, and existential dread. We’re all faking it to some extent — and that’s perfectly okay. So slap on those sunglasses, sip that signature drink, and strut through life like the fabulous mess you are.
What are your favorite “fake it till you make it” tricks? Share in the comments! ✨
